By: Homicide Survivors
What is grief?
Is there a timeline? Am I doing it wrong?
Grief is the emotional response to losing a loved one; it can feel lonely and frightening. Most of us have little idea of what to expect along the way.
Losing a loved one to homicide can be a painful and daunting experience. In our support group, survivors discussed the ability to name & define what grief means to them and feel validated about how we experience grief mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Below are quotes by different survivors defining grief in the many ways it is experienced:
“Grief is private.”
” Grief is isolating.”
“Grief is debilitating
“I don’t know who I am.”
“Grief is horrible; it’s painful.”
“Grief is a lack of a resolution.”
“Grief is lonely, a helpless feeling.”
“Murder becomes an everyday word.”
“I have to prove how ‘whole’ I am to people.”
“Our minds know, but our heart will never accept it.”
“Grief follows me like a sinkhole I can easily fall into.”
“Grief doesn’t want you to go anywhere or do anything.”
“I am not strong at all; I don’t know how I am doing this”
“Grief changed me in being able to set boundaries with others.”
“Grief from homicide is unique compared to an accidental/natural death.”
“Support group is a supportive place I can express myself without judgment.”
“Experiencing grief can make you a better listener and helper to others in grief.”
“In the support group, I can express myself; then after group, I can go back out into my new normal.”